MyTibby

Well.... I'm single now! And it has nothing to do with the new girl that I had just met. I was talking on the phone last night and we had a disagreement on a subject I would rather not bring up, and we had a HUGE argument and I broke it off with her! Now I am single, and I haven't even been talking to the other girl that I liked, so I don't know what will happen if I try to talk to her again, if she hadn't forgotten about me yet! Man, this sucks!!!!!!! sad.gif sad.gif sad.gif

wit2003

I know exactly what your talkin about. My gf of about 5 years basically tells me that she just wants to be friends. And then i come to find out that my best friend at the time was tryin to be "Mr. Nice Guy", so to make a long story short i found out that there was something goin on between them pretty much after she broke it off with me. But she still wanted to be my friend.

[ August 08, 2001: Message edited by: wit2003 ]

Iago

Please.

In all honesty, the "just be friend" thing IS just a ploy. It's psychological hand-washing. The other person offers to be a friend still, partly as a consolation prize so that they don't seem like a HUGE arsehole for breaking things off completely, and also partly because they're banking on the fact that you'll be too frustrated with them to really want to be a friend. Hence they can sleep well at night knowing that they "offered" friendship, and that it was YOU that chose to not be the friend.

Yeah, sure, this is a different tone from my earlier message, bashing mind-games and cheating, but hey. I may be optimistic, but I'm not stupid.

Draven0214

Hey, MyTibby, Wit2003 I know exactly what you guys are felling my gf for 3 years just broke up with me tonight because she felt diffrent and because she was seeing another guy and now she wants to be friends. Well I told that we could still be friends but that it has to stay friends and not get personal because if it does than I'm going to have to say goodbye for good and also I'm hopeing that by her not seeing me much and not talking to me that she will see what she is missing.

wit2003

EXACTLY!!!!!!!!!!!! That seems like what was goin on. Well it doesnt't bother me that much now. If she wants to be friends then she'll talk to me and she'll understand why/if im pissed. Don't know whats gonna happen but i am diggin this other girl, so we'll see what happens. And it's pretty safe to say that i don't talk to that kid anymore.

Peace

Draven0214

At least you have another girl to talk to, and good luck with her too, but for me she was my first gf and I'm not sure how to handle this very much but I do know it is going to be a while before I talk to any other girl because I don't want to have this feeling again, it hurts! sad.gif

MyTibby

Sorry to hear about that Draven. It's a sucky feeling. It brings out the meaning of a broken heart. You're always feeling stress, your blood pressure rises, you have a hard time sleeping, eating, getting through the day. That is what I am feeling right now and it's not a good feeling. But tomorrow is a new day, and I will probably get over it for the most part and start a clean slate with women. I have definately learned from this relationship!

yamaneko

wit and draven...being friends is one thing, but not if they were playing on the down low. That deserves a btch slap. Blow them off! Would a "friend" backstab you like that with another guy? oh yeah, blow off your friend who was playin with her too....thats just wack.
Get some hot chic (hire an escort..hehehe) and show up at a party or movie with her....ok, maybe thats not the most mature thing to do, but definately forget the "just friends" thing.

wit2003

Draven, believe me it took a while for me to talk to other girls. I went through the whole not being able to sleep, eat, being upset deal for close to 4 months. Yea the heartbreak sucks, but better to have happened now then a few more years down the road when things were more serious. Take it easy.

Peace